CATALYST OF CHANGE

Advocacy is essential to advance social inclusion, awareness, empowerment, and instrumental change. It is imperative that all seek and identify essential, sustainable, and practical solutions through research, collaboration, and multidimensional efforts, to identify, comprehend, understand, and recognize the core root causes of abandonment, which causes social disturbances, inequality, or habitual acts which tarnish the structural foundation of families. Within the realm of abandonment all must enhance and strengthen the relationship between social structures, legal frameworks, and judicial systems to effectively change the landscape of what negligence represents, or has fostered within various communities municipally, regionally, nationally, and on a global context, landscape, or scale. Empowerment fosters innovative incremental change, solutions, and most importantly tangible achievements and results within the realms of advocacy and policy, which uphold justice, morality, ethicality, and virtue within the context of child welfare and justice for youth. By examining the systemic barriers, which hinder progress and accountability, it enables equitable outcomes for youth, and influences future generational laws, surrounding the role or precedence abandonment places in one’s lifetime. All must engage in the journey of continuous improvement by advocating for social policy, that supports the wellbeing of children, as they stand as our future leaders, decision makers, and key constituents which shape, mold, and contribute to the sustainability of all. Beyond our experiences, all deserve meaningful change, safety, systematic representation, and support, to foster nurturance and understanding. We must all examine those who have been placed within marginalized cases, especially when they may fall through the cracks due to oversight, ignorance, or a failure to understand the complex dynamics of the case at hand.

Our mission, purpose, and vision should be to support those that have been deeply impacted and traumatized by destructive experiences, to foster immediate change within the realm of representation, accountability, and transparency within the justice, educational, and social systems to expand awareness, achieve sustainable change, foster continued engagement to empower responsible governance, and to embed equity in all practices, policies, processes, and interactions. Through the process of acceptance one can reach the state of reconciliation, through the act of forgiveness, which enables salvation. Through the process of reflection, one can conceptualize and make sense of their experience, and develop methods of healing to achieve balance. One must focus on building communities that enable all to reach their fullest potential, through the advocation of rights and freedoms, through awareness, education, and legislative change. Youth that suffer under the hand of destructive intent, are adversely targeted and impacted, and their voice is often underrepresented within the justice system due to their age or the agreement for their protection to have little to no involvement in the fate of their future. As a child of abandonment, I advocate that all must focus their efforts and initiatives, to devise a strategic plan, which enables more fairness, transparency, accountability, and autonomy for children who endure negligence. It is imperative that institutional change takes place to ensure that youths are protected, safe, and secure from further harm as acute habitual abuse causes psychological, physical, mental, and emotional damage which transcends beyond the time of childhood.

Destruction does not have to manifest at a grave magnitude, as change is possible, with consistent and persistent assistance. Actions which are taken during the primary theta stages, influence or cause catastrophic impact to children, during their developmental stages. Within early development, children’s sense of self is questioned, their role within the world is examined, and the need to declare or reclaim their right to exist despite the act of surrender, is evident by their strong nature to prove their worth beyond misconceptions that they are not essential, worthy, or necessary. Children are not an intangible object, they are representative of sacred life which must be protected, valued, and honoured. Vulnerable youth are subjected to tremendous silent pain which the common eye cannot see as their voice is at times denied within the internalization process. Although, hypervigilance and argumentative deliverance might be misconstrued as a behaviour defect or deficit in need of remedy, all must examine the why, the cause, and the core root rather than the symptomatic aftermaths of inflicted intentful purposeful pain onto an innocent child. Children are not meant to be a pawn, or to fight adult wars. War is turbulent, destructive, unnecessary, and scorches all hope and prosperity for the victim. Through initiatives, collaborative support, and advocacy a child’s voice is heard rather than rendered meaningless or unnecessary due to age. Autonomy and sovereignty, are the two key ingredients, which enables children to reinforce their strength, enhance their ability to vocalize their experiences without prejudice, judgement, ridicule, or conditional programable approaches which instills silence and ignorance, as a measure to identify one as a number rather than a human being within the system. Children are not conditional, or meant to be merely tolerated, or to be used as disposable tools to enable destabilized projections of an immature adult to push their agenda or use as a punching bag. Children deserve the right to be seen, heard, and loved unconditionally and deserve counselling, support, and nurturance from those that are seen as their guardians of light.

Reconciliation, truth, accountability, and acknowledgement must be apparent at the forefront to enable peace, forgiveness, and clarity. One must partake in the declaration to take action, to be the voice that are often silenced or discarded, to uphold justice, fairness, truth, integrity, and awareness. Transformative programs must be apparent to enable support for the disenfranchised or ignored sectors within society. By enabling a framework that ensures consistency, reliability, and efficiency, the child becomes then an active participant in their own life, and is able to express their lived experiences, truth, and circumstances without intimidation, fear, or punishment. Through collaboration, partnerships, programs, the collective unites on shared priorities, invests in future endeavours through accountability and responsiveness, and supports interventions to ensure that the enforcement of law is upheld for a child’s best interest. Alignment fosters balance, cohesiveness, and congruence, and reinforces the foundational core of unity. Outreach is impactful and protects vulnerable members of the community from continued systemic or cyclical harm. Lasting change is only achievable through collaboration rather than silence, ignorance, or negligence. Abandonment is life changing, life altering, and impacts the worth and value of every human being impacted through the conscious infliction of deprivation, surrender, and abuse. Sustainable life changing programs are essential to mitigate the disastrous impacts of destruction, to enable all human life to learn that their existence is not conditional. All must champion peace and inclusion, advance awareness, and enable equality and fairness for all. Critical situations are not permanent, or a life sentence. All human life deserves the ability to advocate for their wellbeing, safety, and stability. One must become a catalyst for positive change to enable meaningful improvements, adaptable solutions that are sustainable over time, and which motivates and inspires those that seek transformation, encouragement, or transmutation from a cycle that has completed its imperative lessons for growth.

Within the realm of constriction, restriction, devaluation, deprivation, and ignorance, one recognizes their inherent place, worth, and value through the suppressive acts by another. It is only within the moments that a life is faced with the question, “How much of this can I sustain?” that change begins to take momentum. You have to define your worth despite the misconceptions of others, stand for truth and justice despite the normative response which may condone intolerance, and seek to be an advocate for those in need in their time of despair. Within the universal context, a counterbalance, force, or karmic counterpart is necessary for one to recognize and realize their intrinsic worth. To move out of the complacency of fear, one must take on the initiative to take action. Fear is temporary, an illusionary restriction, and a barrier to total and complete sovereignty. Our conscious expression is meant to experience liberation, freedom, and peace. To thrive and become adaptable, one must navigate through various terrains, while maintaining momentum amidst adversity, obstacles, denial or restrictions. Ignorance stifles and constrains vision, by forcing one to remain complacent or unwilling to readjust or focus on what can be improved on. No one has the right to determine your role within life, or grant you permission to exist. Often, parents will deny their children’s existence to inflict further harm, skirt accountability or responsibility, or to conceal their past out of shame, remorse, guilt, or to not unveil who they truly are at their core. Persistence, perseverance, and focus are necessary to muster the strength to determine one’s path beyond the conditional predetermined roles or modes of thinking. Engagement, identification of core roots, and methods, enables one to define and pinpoint where cracks within the foundation may reside. Social justice enables equality, inclusiveness, and tolerance for all, beyond conditional rhetoric or empty words. Improvement requires innovation to spark ingenuity, progress despite stagnation, and the drive to move beyond the fear into actionable results. One must envision a better future, harness their vision to become reality, and overcome false misconceptions, directives, or misunderstandings to derive clarity, focus, and literal meaning through purpose. One must become a catalyst of transcendence to transmute barriers, to champion and advance initiatives that enable tangible results. Unity enables congruence, and is the conscious effort to move beyond confrontation and destruction, into a state of peace, sovereignty, and inner power. Complicity, ignorance, and non-transparency threatens all hope to seek a cure for the underlying factors of negligence, however, beyond the circumstance one must seek to understand the core root, rather than blaming a child based on their symptomatic responses to harm, injury, perjury, or alienation. All youth must be protected from abuse, neglect, and all forms of systematic or cyclical forms of intentful destructive acts to preserve their innocence. By enabling support, resources, an coordinated programs through forms of healing, advocacy, and multidisciplinary aid, all can effectively focus their efforts on protection and prevention, while intervening on the child’s behalf as guardians of the light.

Trauma is silent, a multifaceted state that affects and effects all sectors within society, and within the state of repetitive or acute circumstances, can cause a child to perceive their life as worthless, meaningless, or powerless. Through the enforcement of laws, regulations, and enhanced policies, the judicial system can place barriers on parental misbehaviour or traumatizing acts, while placing the child into custody with those that have proven their responsive, diligent, consistent, and respectful caring nature. It is essential to reduce the numbers of incidents of trauma based scenario’s, and to advocate for a more coordinated response to circumvent the acts of habitual child abuse. Compassion, care, assessment, and support through forms of unity is imperative, to help a child in need, and to obtain justice for those who cannot speak for themselves. I highly encourage all to seek resources and services that offer assistance within times of injury, as a child is a blessing not a burden or a sin. One must not ignore the concerns or evidence of child neglect or abuse, and all should focus on efforts to safeguard and protect those within vulnerable circumstances from further injury or harm. Life is sacred, and through advocacy, one becomes proactive rather than reactive. Beyond the experience, one must examine the core roots rather than relying on the superficial symptoms. Violence can be silent, hidden, concealed to the hidden eye, and become a projective destructive cyclical habitual act especially when it becomes an adopted acute attribute or act of character by a dysfunctional parent or caregiver. Abuse, alienation, abandonment, and negligence, should not be accepted, tolerated, ignored, or condoned. First you look, then you see. Abuse is not discipline, it is asynchronistic and acute. Verbal and physical intentional harm requires intervention rather than ignorance. Excessive habitual or consistent harm does not dissipate, it requires regulations and oversight by trained judicial or law enforcement figures as it is a habitual attribute within the mind of the oppressor. One cannot heal in the same environment that has fostered illness or injury therefore, cease to reintroduce the victim to their perpetrators and seek remedies rather than quick solutions.

Responsiveness enables the welfare of all, as love is not conditional or unconditional tolerance, and trust is the key ingredient to circumvent abusive harm which has become circular in nature. A child is not a burden, problem, or a pawn, and one must look beyond the destructive or antisocial behaviour and seek the core root of their internal pain. Abuse is silent, festers within the compartmentalized mind of the victim, and seeks to destroy and dismantle the human spirit as a whole. As an advocate I highly encourage all to speak to their family doctor, healthcare professional, law enforcement agency, or institutes which advocate for the welfare of minors to foster change and call for immediate intervention of a child in need. Children are meant to maintain their innocence. One might question, how to counter adult counterparts that feel that their actions are above consequence? The solution is to remove the child from that situation to gain peace, clarity, and focus rather than remaining in the projective abusive state of intolerance. Our oppressors cannot become our arbitrators of truth. Adults who engage in the act of projection, mistreatment, violence, or foster ill intent against a innocent child are not aligned, balanced, or operate with a sense of ethicality, logic, or morality. It is imperative that one maintains a consistent approach to seek justice rather than falling into the realm of retaliation. Abuse is reckless, intentional, and causes substantial inflicted pain on the victim beyond the initial interaction which causes a cascading effect which causes a child to not function or trust others. So why do we blame the child then for not trusting another? We have to give children the room to breathe, to reflect, to catch their breath so to speak to enable healing to take place or precedence. An act can cause temporary or permanent damage therefore, prevention and intervention is essential and imperative in the initial stages of concern or evidence of child deprivation.

All deserve unconditional love, understanding, tolerance, equality, fairness, safety, and support. Self-compassion, self-forgiveness and the forgiveness of others, intentional mindfullness through grounding and alignment enforces balance, congruency, and stability by remaining responsive and reflective. Above all, respect confidentiality, place the situation into perspective rather than remaining judgemental, and remain consistent and persistent to seek logical and methodical methods to derive solutions and resolutions. Set clear expectations, define your boundaries, and always encourage positive reinforcement when teaching the greater collective about sovereignty, boundaries, rights, freedoms, and autonomous self-care. Love is not unconditional tolerance, is not a form of manipulative disciplinary acts of punishment or compulsion, or modes of coercion, and does not seek to control the lives of others or cause constraints, barriers, or restrictions. Rejection is redirection, and a form of universal protection to protect the victim from further undesirable activities of harm or injustice. Misbehaviour, violence, abuse, or perpetual harm have consequential consequences therefore, awareness is important to move from emotional responses into collective action, and to gain a firm understanding of the core root of the matter to counter the force of abuse. Unrest causes all to reflect, reset, and adjust. One must logically decipher the misbehaviour of another and analyze how it has become a cyclical core root of destruction. Our natural state is that of peace not destruction. Through modelled behaviour, communication, support, and acknowledgement, one moves from perception into reality, from compartmentalization into verbalization, and isolating stagnation into healing.

Alienation, abandonment, neglect, and deprivation, are not a life sentence, as one must become fearless to move beyond the state of primal fear. Direct physical violence, negligence, and destruction constitutes as emotional, physical, internal, mental and psychological harm. Within the realms of abuse, one cannot operate within grey matter. To deny a human life of their rights and freedoms, or to state that they are not considered a necessity or essential, contributes and represents, the continued narrative that all are nothing, or hold no integral value. We are not determined by our items, status, or situations beyond our control as we are defined by our character and not the actions of another. Children that are born into situations beyond their control did not manifest it into fruition, consent to the perpetual harm, or condone the acts of deprivation. To examine a child as an ends to a means, a burden, a problem, or a material benefit to use as a bargaining chip or pawn is to not hold value or worth for life itself. To remove ones dignity, integrity, or to cause instrumental loss, causes psychological deprivation and leaves the victim at a disadvantage to maintain justice, fairness, accountability as their civil rights and freedoms are eroded by their oppressor or perpetrator.

Beyond the realms of death, illness, or circumstances that which prevent one from taking care of a life, within my writings I focus on those that are consciously and intentfully aware of their actions and have no sense of remorse or lack of consideration for the child’s welfare, accountability or atonement for their injustice they have caused. Deprivation is acute, occurs for an extended period of time, and causes alienation, isolation, lack of support, nurturance, or resources through the form of abandonment. Abandonment as a word holds no value to those that have not experienced the internal pain or consequences of its destructive act. One cannot learn peace, trust, or safety within an environment that supports negligence, harm, or willful intenful cyclical abuse. Deprivation causes systemic barriers, lifelong psychological damages, and erodes trust for intimacy or nurturance for another. Abandonment is alienation, signifies a break within the connection with the primary parent or parents, induces disparity and incongruence which misaligns mindsets and perceptions, and in the end, the living environment becomes one not of opportunity, hope, or promise but a mere battleground. Through the establishment of healthy boundaries, support, self-compassion, a stand to challenge what has been accepted, tolerated, or seen as tolerable, one then immerses immediately into a state of fearlessness by countering the aspects of powerlessness and victimization. One is no longer a victim to their surroundings, rather becomes a survivor, a pillar, or beacon of light, to help others navigate the complex journeys of life. To become a bastion of truth, one must not conceal their inner story, rather vocalize their experiences to help the greater community. Above and beyond, we are all the forces of change, are not victims to the intenful will of another that seeks to dismantle, or cause surrender or separation. Those that have endured abandonment are a testament of one’s ability to survive and persevere despite the odds. Emotional deprivation can be countered by those who understand true nurturance, unconditional love, compassion, empathy, and unwavering support. Absence is the cornerstone that underpins abandonment, suffering is the residual symptom that is experienced after the act has taken root. Social isolation, attachment, and mental constraints all are evidence of what abandonment causes. One must never undermine the severity of abandonment as it deeply impacts one’s ability to see their worth, value, and place within this world. The suffering one has experienced does not mean that the individual is nothing, a burden, or a sin, however, one must view these battle scars as tiger stripes and proudly embrace their imperfections as they are symbolic of survival. One cannot receive love by another who does not love, honour, or appreciate themselves, love therefore, must come from within. Become a force that moves beyond adversity, turmoil, and residual pain, and become an advocate and catalyst of change.